Carol Queen and I co-authored a brand new BIG book on human sexuality, your sexuality. THE Sex & Pleasure Book: Good Vibrations Guide to Great Sex for Everyone!
It’s available for sale on GoodVibes.com. We strived to make a book that you will enjoy reading and re-reading for the rest of your life so in addition to any digital editions you buy we hope you pick up a print paperback to keep forever. Look for us at readings and get it autographed.
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Email me Shar at SharRednour.com.
If you need some parenting support or date night advice see my blog: howgreatsexmademeagoodmom.com. Yes, it needs some new posts but hey, still great info! Stay tuned as I have a new radio program coming out soon.
As An Author and Editor
About The Femme’s Guide to the Universe: the 2nd edition is available on Kindle, Nook or on AUDIO–I am thrilled to be on audible.com. I have updated this classic for today’s femmes, wannabe femmes, Goddesses who need validation (or cleaning tips), Divas who need sex help, and bright young women who want to help being even more fabulous than you already are! It’s been a long time coming since the first edition. I had a blast updating it and I think it will be oh so helpful to you.
The Femme’s Guide to the Universe first came out on Alyson Press in 2001 then in 2012 I worked for months to update it. I kept notes for the FG my whole life and researched all of the advice whole-heartedly. I am nothing if not thorough.
An essay I wrote for On Our Backs magazine was reprinted in the academic journal “The Last Sex: Feminism and Its Outlaw Bodies.” It was about being a traditional virgin yet a sexual lesbian—Oh you can’t imagine the stir that caused. So I decided to do a whole anthology about virginity. I conceived and edited Virgin Territory 1 and 2 (Richad Kasak book). I collected women’s real life stories of first sexual experiences in order to re-claim what “virgin” means. Nowadays there are countless “real life” erotica collections as a fad–most stories are barely if at all based on real experiences–but when Virgin Territory came out it was the only one. Booksellers did not even have a section for creative non-fiction. The stories in it are epic and true. Some are titillating and some aren’t but they are all a part of feminist erotica and asserting our own truths of our own lives.
I also edited and created starphkr the zine which afterwords became a book spelled slightly different: Starf*cker. (Alyson Press). The zine was nominated for an ABA award coming after Bust which has thousands of readers—and had even just been on MTV— so I was proud of that.
I have been an editor at On Our Backs magazine, and written for others including The Bay Times, Girlfriends, Curve, Playboy and others I can’t even remember. I’ve written for some favorite old counter-culture rags, now obsolete, like The Spectator. I’ve interviewed Dr. Ruth Westheimer and have appeared on TV shows with Larry Flint and MS. Magazine Editor Marcia Gillespie.
I am very proud to be a Sister Spit alumni!
Currently, I am working on 2 humorous but insightful books on parenting.
I am an invited speaker and workshop leader on parenting including many topics, including: keeping your relationship vibrant, talking to kids about sex, talking to schools/community about LGBTQQ children and advocating for their safety and ability to thrive, self-care, and a whole lot more. I also help adult children be allies for their aging parents or themselves in regards to their sexuality and health. References available.
As a Mommy Writer
I am a creative, strong, and funny mother to three in a transracial, 2-mom family created through domestic adoption via the public system. I have always been a kid-person meaning I love kids but also I am a vibrant playful person who remembers what it’s like to be a child.
I am married to Jackie Strano. We’ve been together since 1993. In 1996 we had our real wedding even though that was not legal at the time–we called it our “Fierce Queer True Love Union.” In 2004 we legally wed only for that to be ripped apart and then of course it became law in 2008. Marriage Equality USA and other human rights organizations are close to my heart.
Wow do I get countless inquiries for our “secret sauce.” Luckily I’m not too stingy and like to share any ideas that may or may not work for folks (but hey, trying is always fun!)
As A Filmmaker
I am the director and co-producer of Healing Sex featuring healer, activist, author, practitioner Staci Haines which helps heal intimacy with ourselves and others after surviving abuse or trauma. This revolutionary project helps heal the world from personal and systemic violence. My company’s other endeavors like Hard Love & How to Fuck In High Heels, Sugar High Glitter City or the Bend Over Boyfriend series were created with love to the human race, in particular to lesbians and queers who wanted to see more imagery that looks and fucks like we do! I am serious about education and people feeling good, healed and free to have “checked in” sex. Embodied sex.
As A Human
I try to walk the Earth as consciously as I can.
I help charities and benefits that empower or improve the lives of women and children and their communities. As a part of my human rights and dignity work, I am extremely concerned about classism. I come from a blue collar working class family.
I describe myself as “almost vegan.” Or harm-reductionist vegetarian. As a mom surrounded by cheese pizza at school fairs, I am not perfect. But I do my best to try to reduce the cruelty and pain and environmental detriment with my personal habits and educate my family so they can make informed and empowered choices.
I am a fan of Captain Paul Watson and contribute to Sea Shepard as well as Earthjustice, Plan USA, and PBS. I always advocate for children and the future.